Victim
of Violence: Angela's Story
Domestic
violence--the bloodied eyes, the broken
bones, and the shattered dreams. This was
the life of victim Angela Chapman Larson.
Debby White brings us this dramatic tale.
"Your heart just beats like its going
to come out of your chest when you hear
his footsteps and you hear the rustle of
him coming into the room. It is terrifying,"
says Angela.
Angela Chapman was dying a slow death,
the pain of her battered body only eclipsed
by the pain of utter despair. She reasoned
she had made her bed; now she had to lie
in it.
"I thought he was very charming and he
was eleven years older than me and he also
had two homes and his own business. At the
age I was at and how much my life was in
turmoil, I wanted something that was comfortable
and security," she says.
Angela had never known security. Her parents
divorced when she was five and her stepfather
moved the family eighteen times before Angela's
18th birthday.
Then a brutal rape by the brother of a
friend turned Angela's growing insecurity
into self-hatred.
"It was very traumatic and I felt very
stupid and vulnerable. I felt dirty and
ugly
and ultimately, pregnant," says
Angela.
Angelas parents forced her to have
an abortion. Maybe all that trauma explains
why Angela hastily married the first man
who professed to love her.
But it wasnt long before Angela knew
she was in big trouble. Her fine upstanding
Texas husband was a wife-beater.
"I would lay down in the floor and I would
cry and curl up in a little ball and just
start praying, and I would ask God, 'Why?
Why are you letting this happen to me?'
"
But her husband's distemper interrupted
Angela's pleas for help. "He would walk
over and put his foot on my back and he
would say, 'Stop it, stop praying. Stop
it!' And he would just yell and curse,"
Angela recalls.
"I would sleep with my arm up around my
face upon the pillow just in case he came
home in a bad mood and wanted to put a pillow
across my face or something."
Falling prey to her husband's violent behavior,
Angela often blamed herself. "I felt if
I was a little smarter, if I wouldnt
say stupid things, if I looked a little
prettier, he wouldnt want to hit me
or bruise me, because you dont do
that to something you consider precious,"
she says. "Sometimes I felt like I deserved
it because I was a failure and I let him
down. There were times that he would tell
me that he loved me and when he was kind.
That made the bad times even more confusing
and lonely."
Angela felt she couldnt share her
tragic secret with anyone.
"You wear turtle necks or long sleeve shirts,
and if there is a hole in the wall, you
put a picture over it; and if there is a
big hole in the wall, you move furniture,"
she says.
Angelas one hope, ironically, was
her husbands mother.
She was as kind as her son was abusive.
Although she did not know Angela's secret
hell, she knew that Angela needed a Savior.
"She was discipling me, and trying to bring
me into a relationship with God, and trying
to teach me about love, " says Angela.
But Angela thought all hope was lost when
her mother-in- law suddenly died.
"So
when I lost her, I thought, 'I cant
go through this anymore,' and at her funeral
I just looked up at the picture of Jesus
and I said, 'You have got to give me something
to get through this. I cant do it
on my own. I cant do it anymore.'
And at that moment, I thought my hair blew
back. It was just awesome! I had had electricity
from head to foot. I was warm and cold at
the same time! After that, I had a hunger
for the Word. I couldnt read the Bible
enough."
Angela had finally met the One who could
save her.
"I would take a kite, go out in the field
and fly my kite. I would feel the wind tug
on it and I would feel like I was dancing
with God," she says.
As Angela drew closer to the Lord, He began
to speak to her words of healing and hope.
One day, Angela says, God told her to begin
to sing--a gift long buried under layers
of pain.
Too many wounds are full of venom
"When my husband would leave for work,
I would get out the music, I would get out
my tapes and with every song that I sang,
I received more joy. I felt like, 'Maybe
God can use me after all. I am worth something,
' " she says.
"I went from two and a half octaves to
five, and thats not normal. But somehow
God took my obedience and multiplied it."
Before long, a music promoter heard a tape
of Angela's incredible voice. She was whisked
to Nashville, and a recording contract was
soon in the works.
Even more amazing, Angela's husband Steve
did not resist her good fortune. He thought
it was great, a contract for multi-millions
of dollars. Wow! And he said, "Okay, lets
go for it."
"But as time went on, I think he felt control
slipping away from him," Angela says. "He
would throw things. I just knew at that
moment, I couldn't go on anymore and I called
my step dad." Angela told him, "I cant
do this anymore, I have got to find a way
to get out, and I am afraid that I am going
to die. I am afraid for my children."
Then Angela called her new agent and told
her that she was leaving her husband. The
agent said, "No, no! The Christian community
cannot tolerate something like this! If
you leave, you lose your contract."
Despite that threat, Angela left her abusive
husband because she knew that no recording
contract was worth her life. But during
their separation, something unforeseen happened.
Her husband went to church and showed signs
of turning his life around. Angela even
agreed to see him again. But it wasnt
to be. Shortly thereafter, he committed
suicide.
"People called me a murderer and told me
that it was my fault," says Angela. "Keep
in mind that I didnt tell all the
people in town what had gone on all those
years. All they saw was that I had left.
I had all the burdens put on me suddenly
plus his death."
"But its Gods mercy and Gods
grace and Gods strength that helped
me handle all of it. It helped me handle
the $150,000 debt that he had left us,"
continues Angela.
Angela Chapman endured brutal assaults.
She endured the death of her dream to sing,
then the death of her husband. And she faced
the cold, accusing stares of those who blamed
her. But Angela Chapman is a survivor. And
she says, there is only one reason--God.
"His grace is sufficient, and His blood
will cover every little spot that may have
been on me. His joy can overcome any pain
I may have felt. His mercies are new everyday
and I dont have to beg for it, and
I dont have to borrow mercies from
someone else because He doesnt have
enough."
Along
the way, Angela found another love
and
a new marriage --this time to a man who
knows the real meaning of love.
"I didnt know that a husband could
look me in the face and say, 'You are so
precious, and I love you so much,' " she
says.
"Now she can look and see that God loves
her and that I love her, people around love
her, and that she is important," says husband
Jeff. "She has a call on her life."
Thats why youll now find Angela
and Jeffrey along with their blended family
traveling the world to sing Gods praises.
"Wherever we are going, wherever He may
lead, one thing is for certain: With the
Savior, we are free. If He can do that for
me, He can do that for anybody, because
I lost everything and yet I gained so much
more," she says.